Some thoughts:  Character matters.  I don't care, and I don't think anyone should care what color your skin is, who you love, whether you're a man or a woman.  Character matters most of all and eclipses everything else.  I'm still working on the "who you love part" in the abstract; in person, I do not care who you find attractive and who you spend...

this is what the right wing conservatives call a family event? Do you realize how fucking stupid you all sound? The guy is asking you all these questions, and you're there to PROTEST something you don't agree with, but you don't know what it is, where it came from or what its doing. How ignorant and blatently obvious you people are with your stupid signs and your stupid protests and your...

I was rocking one of the twins last night to the rhythm of the pulse of the universe my hand patting her little bottom in synchronicity with the hands of so many mothers rocking in so many dark bedrooms I reflected (as I often do while rocking) on the action of rocking itself the expression of rhythmic motion like dancing, like walking, like clapping or grinding my teeth and...

I was going through some old memories downstairs.  Pictures of a time gone away. When my family was still intact. My mom and gramma and many others were still alive. When you view old photos your children are little again with pacifiers and bottles. They hold out their hands and  smile and say Pick me Up!  They look so angelic as babies into 5 or 6 so far. And then their babies...

The Mary got me thinking about my own life.  It's not ordinary, it's been very hard, but despite the fact that I'm an unsuccessful thirty year old man, I can find some joy.  I have a beautiful daughter, or at least I claim her.  I have a roof over my head, and I'm relatively stable.  I don't have a dog, nor is my yard big enough to park my gas guzzling land yacht, but somehow...

I know if i can't change my past, i should know i can change in how i live my life in the future which so to speak in the past 5  days i have been pulling myself slowly away from my friend.  I know going cold turkey was/is impossible, but pulling slowly seems to be working.  Some days I just feel kosher with it all because well I am really concentrating on focusing on his wife and...

Are Americans really, truly, honestly that dense?? I mean, spending 13 months living in the suburbs of Chicago, with an American family and being immersed in American culture I generally backed up my previous beliefs that sure there are some stupid Americans, but no more than there are in any country and in fact the majority of Americans are simply normal people living normal lives. I have...

Douche-bag (according to UrbanDictionary.com) "An individual who has an over-inflated sense of self worth, compounded by a low level of intellegence, behaving ridiculously in front of colleagues with no sense of how moronic he appears. " Enter Kanye West. I thought he couldn't get any more lower than being a super ultra douche but tonight's example was one of the most horrible I've...

Michael Jackson died almost 3 months ago, yet it appears that we are still holding memorials for him. Now, let's assume that he never molested any of those boys (for arguments sake). Even if that were true, what did he do in his life that was so great that we should spend the rest of his afterlife mourning him? Did he campaign for world peace? No. He may have written songs about it and been in...

This is my latest blog entry:     When I became engaged, everyone told me that marriage is tough. You have to work hard at it. That puzzled me because I wondered - did you not have to put in work with your relationship? I know I did. So I figured I had that covered. I knew there would be rough times just like there is for every relationship, so I felt like I was prepared to...